By Pat Jones
Here we are, wrapping up another brutal summer golf season around the country. The lowlights included record heat, way too much traffic, disease, storms, and, of course, not enough crew to get it all done.
But that’s nothing new. The “100 days of hell” has been a miserable badge of honor for far too many turf pros over the years. Too often, we celebrated it as a rite of passage for young turfies. Now they just move on rather than killing themselves for $14 an hour and a chance to be an AIT. They have better options that don’t demand as much physically or emotionally.
And supers feel it too. You are, after all, your own worst critics. Because of that, you’re at work too much, separated from family and loved ones, and unable to do anything for yourself because you’re constantly scrambling to keep every damn blade of grass alive. Self-induced anxiety about all things turf is compounded by that guilty feeling that you’re doing a lousy job as a spouse, a parent and simply as a person who needs to have a healthier life outside of work.
This is the double-edged sword of superintendent culture. We celebrate the brotherhood (and sisterhood) of turf life. We embrace the suck, even if it means exhaustion and stress at home. Because that’s the way it’s always been.
But, thankfully, that’s finally changing.
According to the Flagstick-Bloom Employment Trends Study we conducted earlier this year, work-life balance has become a major deal point for superintendents. More than 80% of the 300+ superintendents who responded said they had taken active steps to achieve better balance in their lives. That’s awesome news. Even better, they shared how they were doing it and we found some commonalities that may help you achieve the same sense of balance in your life.
Establish Boundaries at Work and at Home
Perhaps the number one thing superintendents were doing to achieve some in-season balance is simply setting boundaries with their GM or owner and/or family. Here’s a typical example:
“As a father, I’ve made it known to my club that I will not miss the events (big and small) in my children’s lives. First day of school, Saturday morning games, etc. And it’s important to me to help with getting kids on the bus, to appointments, etc.”
“I have made non-negotiable commitments to my family to be more present in the moment and leave work at work.”
“I have set boundaries on my phone so my work email only downloads within certain hours of the day to reduce notifications. It allows me to focus on my family when I am at home.”
“Family commitments overrule work commitments. Period.”
“I’ve realized it will be there tomorrow. If we’re producing a daily championship product and it’s okay to be off a day or two.”
“I’m very open with my GM about how my goal is to make it to 80% or more of the kids’ events and I will make that happen by building a strong team. Quite frankly I’m open with the board about it too.”
The most important thing here is to have a clear conversation with your boss about your work schedule and priorities. Chances are good they don’t expect you to give up having a life to work there. Also look around: are the other managers there all the time and never taking vacations? Chances are good your expectations for time at work aren’t the same as your boss’s.
Delegation and Scheduling
Another holdover of the old culture of golf course maintenance is the “first to arrive, last to leave” mentality. Being there all the time because you’re the boss basically means you don’t trust the people who work for you. If they really aren’t trustworthy, you have bigger problems than who arrives early or stays late.
The only way to develop good employees is to trust them. Period.
“I made a conscious effort to limit how much I work. The season does make the days longer but there are times to let the assistant superintendent take the reins and handle things.”
“I schedule time away in advance. I trust staff to handle things when I’m gone.”
“I changed staff scheduling model to allow everyone more consistent time away (two consecutive days off weekly), which in turn mitigates absenteeism/tardiness compared to five years ago. It also reduces overtime so this has made it possible to hire more staff, with fewer hours and higher productivity.”
“I came from one of those 12-14 hours a day courses and I swore I would never endure another job like that or make others work those hours. It cost me my first marriage. If anyone on my staff is there past 5 p.m. there is an emergency or they’re playing golf.”
Finally, this simple one: “Empowered employees.”
If you feel anxious about leaving at a reasonable time when you’ve accomplished your goals for the day, you really should think about why you feel that way. We’ve all stupidly conditioned ourselves to feel guilty for not working all the time. As a wise man once said, “Nobody ever had ‘I wish I’d spent more time at the office” carved on their tombstone.”
Changing Views About the Job
Again, in a culture where expectations often run wild, it’s good to see that many superintendents are stepping back from the fool’s game of trying to be perfect. Even Augusta National isn’t perfect. Constantly agonizing about what the members or others think about you, your course or your conditions isn’t healthy. So, some superintendents are lowering their expectations for themselves.
“I’ve learned that there is such a thing as good enough. I’ve stopped trying to make it perfect and dialed it back a bit.”
“I care about my work output and produce a good product but I don’t put in 110 percent anymore. Family first, then work.”
“I have made it clear to my club that work/life balance is a priority not only to me, but for my management team as well. We are very lucky to have been given the freedom and resources to make this possible.”
“Let it go, but be accountable. That’s both in your life and your career.”
“I took a new job at a smaller facility to allow more family time.”
“My give-a-shit meter has been adjusted appropriately. For many years, it was out of whack.”
It’s hard to accept, but no one is irreplaceable and no career is worth losing your soul over. Take a step back and think about what really matters to you. It’s probably not just your job.
Final Thoughts
There is much, much more in the 191 comments we received about work-life balance. Exercise, hobbies, mindfulness, faith…all of those were helping your peers around the country evolve and survive. You can read all the comments and ideas here.
The bottom line is that there’s never been a better time to establish your boundaries and adopt some techniques for work-life balance because there’s never been this level of appreciation for superintendents before. You have more leverage than you know. It’s time to use that and begin to live the life you deserve and enjoy your job even more.
Pat Jones can be reached at patjonesgolf@gmail.com or 440-478-4763.
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